This week, after 71 years together Wilf and Vera Russell passed away within minutes of each other, while three miles apart. Their granddaughter Stephanie said that she believed that Vera was waiting for Wilf to pass.
Losses like these can strengthen the idea that it is possible to die from a broken heart, and so we have put together 3 things that may help after the loss of a spouse.
It is important to acknowledge that even when following tips like these, your healing process cannot begin without expressing your feelings and thoughts about the loss you have suffered.
A support group can be a helpful way to begin this process as it will aid you in expressing your feelings and experiences surrounding the loss of your loved one. Selsdon & District offer free support groups to help grieving individuals as well as one to one counselling for those that need it. Please get in touch with us to find out more about our support groups and counselling.
3 Things That May Help After the Loss of a Spouse:
1. Take care of yourself
When you’re distracted by your grief it becomes easy to forget about looking after yourself and your own health. Remember to try and eat healthy foods when you can and try to get as much rest/sleep as possible- taking a long walk before bed can help!
2. Make Plans
If you are used to spending every day with someone it is important you don’t isolate yourself now. Losing a constant in your life is difficult to adjust to, so try to make plans to socialise. Spend time with friends or family, take a class or even join an exercise group. These options will give you company and help get you talking to people.
3. Take time to think before making major changes
Keeping yourself busy with big changes may feel like the best option to distract yourself from your grief. Aim not to make any big decisions after the loss of your spouse until you are 100% comfortable with the outcome. Always ensure you are ready and certain about a change, even if it takes a long time.
The most important thing to remember is that there are people, groups, and organisations available to support you, so don’t hesitate to reach out for extra help if you feel you need it.